March's Theme: Unlocking the Power of Connection
In January's (Choosing to Live an Intentional Life) and February's (The Power of Authenticity) blog posts, I explored the concepts of living intentionally and authentically.
This month, I challenge you to continue to thrive by choosing to connect with others in community.
Dr. Martin E. P. Seligman’s book, Flourish, provides multiple examples and tools for enhancing well-being and getting the most out of life. (By the way, that book was a Book for Living selection; highly recommended for its insights!)
Seligman references a study by John Cacioppo, a leading social psychologist and an expert on the subject of loneliness. Cacioppo wrote:
“It is our ability to reason, plan and work together that sets us apart from other animals. Human survival depends on our collective abilities, our ability to join together with others in pursuing a goal, not on our individual might.”
In Atlas of the Heart (another highly recommended Book for Living selection), Brene Brown expands on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and writes:
“Recent research shows that finding a sense of belonging in close social relationships and with our community is essential to well-being. What makes belonging essential for us is the fact that we are a social species. We can’t survive without one another.”
So how can you intentionally cultivate connections in your life to meet your need for well-being? May I offer the following ideas for your consideration?
Be curious. Identify those who make you feel seen, heard, respected, and are aligned with your values. Surround yourself with people who make time feel meaningful.
Consider joining groups or organizations that share your values. Being part of something greater than yourself is a form of self-care. We all seem to have an innate desire to give back. To make a difference. To be able to say that our time here mattered.
When in conversation with another person, listen. Really listen. Don’t make assumptions. Don’t try to “fix” the other person or assume that they want “fixing” or advice. Ask if your intuition is correct. Ask how you can be of support. After all, isn’t this what you hope that someone will do for you?
Prioritize social connections by scheduling them in your calendar - in a way that it stands out. I know that if it’s not on my calendar, it won’t happen. Choose activities and group sizes that are within your comfort level. I’m finding that I enjoy being with small intimate groups for 2 - 3 hours - and ending before 9pm. Can you relate to how our calendars are changing? I also enjoy those strolls with a friend when we can just “be” in a state of awe in nature.
Don’t hesitate to seek help when needed - whether professionally with a coach or therapist or on a personal level with family or friends. This is often called being vulnerable. I think it’s just being real. We simply need each other.
I’m curious: What words or phrases resonated with you? What didn’t resonate? There’s learning in both.
What are you taking away from this experience?
Wishing you a month of positive, reciprocal connections in a community that brings a peaceful sense of well-being!
In Your Corner,
- Linda